Every rabbi approaches weddings a little differently. Here are some aspects that are key. It is important to us that every couple feels part of a sacred process that is stress-free, tailored to them, and special. Below are some questions and answers about our wedding philosophy that may help you when considering us for your wedding officiation.
Why have a Jewish wedding?
The Jewish wedding rituals are truly beautiful, full of symbolism and tradition. They have been designed over many generations to help enhance your connection to one another, your families, and your people. The Jewish wedding rituals help frame and celebrate the joyful act of commitment. The Jewish rituals allow us to connect the wedding ceremony to the mysteries of the universe and God, even if for a few moments. The rituals help create sacred space and time that make your ceremony more meaningful and memorable.
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Is there flexibility when designing our wedding ceremony?
Yes! Judaism provides a general framework that leaves ample opportunities for personal ritual or customization reflecting who you are, and those things that are important to you. This could take the form of writing your own vows or including favorite poems or songs into your ceremony. We are happy to explore with you additional special rituals that would help you feel spiritually prepared for your wedding day.
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Is there rabbinic counseling leading up to the wedding day?
Yes! Typically, we meet with wedding couples 5-7 times on zoom and/or in-person before the actual wedding ceremony. This allows us to build a rapport and make sure both of you are completely comfortable with the ceremony. In addition, we can explore how some of Judaism’s valuable insights into marriage and your journey together as a couple might be meaningful.
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What is your stance on Intermarriage?
We do perform intermarriage wedding ceremonies. It is our hope as rabbis that your experience with a rabbi is so positive that you will feel comfortable connecting with a Jewish community at some point in the future. If you have questions about conversion, we are open to that conversation, but is in no way a requirement. In our combined 36 working with wedding couples we know that every couple is unique and an open conversation between couple and rabbi allows for the most meaningful pre-marriage and wedding experience.
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Would you co-officiate with another clergy member?
We relish the opportunity to work with cantors and other rabbis. To be authentically present during your ceremony, we cannot perform the ceremony with clergy of another faith. However, if a family member or friend of the bride or groom is a member of the clergy, we would be open to them offering a prayer or scriptural reading from the shared scripture in a lay capacity.
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Would you officiate a same-sex wedding ceremony?
Yes!
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What time can the ceremony begin?
With the exception of Shabbat (sundown Friday to Saturday), our timing is flexible any day of the week. Saturday, we are open to beginning the wedding procession at around 6pm, regardless of the time of the year. Friday night is not an option at all.
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On the day of our wedding, how long can we expect you to be with us?
We arrive 1-2 hours before the wedding ceremony so we can make sure the ceremony site is set up correctly and all of the ritual items are in place. We will of course be present for and facilitate the Ketubah (Jewish wedding contract) signing and wedding ceremony. In our experience, this allows for a comfortable pace and time frame. It is also important for couples to know that our philosophy is "the bride is never late." We are fully present for you for your wedding ceremony and pre-ceremony preparations. Please note that because of Shabbat obligations, we are generally not available for rehearsals.